20.5 – For Last Week’s MM:
The first rule of dealing with drama: don’t hang around people who are constantly creating drama.
The second rule: never forget the first one.
Apply the 80/20 rule. Who in your family generates most of the drama? How can you spend less time with them this week?
Give yourself permission to skip one thing that drains you this holiday. A conversation. A meal. An expectation you never asked for. Let me know how it goes.
First, I want to say that this Xmas was – by far – better than last year’s. One main factor in that is The Boyfriend. At the time, I was monumentally confused from weeks of neglect and outright rejection, feeling that I’d made a huge mistake in trusting my own judgement. I had no idea what was happening behind the scenes (his addiction). I’m not sure if that gained knowledge makes it any better or worse. Either way, he didn’t have to work this year and our relationship is much better. I won’t say it’s great, we still have a lot of work to do, but I’m grateful for the progress.
There hasn’t been any “drama” from my family (at least, not here anyway), but I think most of that is because I just… choose not to spend much time with them?
Surrounding the holidays, the family had made plans to have an Xmas dinner on the 20th and make that the be-all-end-all, but it definitely didn’t end up that way. We DID have the dinner, but a gift exchange for Xmas morning was announced and football/dinner that night. We went to the gift exchange and I refused the dinner.
21.0 – How to Win at Life
Two quotes for you to think about
“For last year’s words belong to last year’s language. And next year’s words await another voice.” – T.S. Eliot
“Almost everything will start working again if you unplug it for a few minutes… including you.” – Anne Lamott
Reflect: Then consider sharing this thought with others.
Two things for you to ask yourself
What language of your life in 2025 will you leave behind? What language of 2026 will you bring alive?
Recommended: Use these as journaling prompts for the week.
One thing for you to try this week
Unplug yourself. Literally and figuratively. Pause what you’re doing, reflect on your year, and let me know what you find.
As for how I’m doing… Princess Fluffybutt is yelling at me right now, wanting me to follow her (it’s her thing) and supervise her eating. Had my regular Monday call with Granny Sídhe and – somehow I knew – my mom called to invite me out for lunch. So, I’ve showered and I’ll find something to do to pass the time.
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