EnchiPants: a blog about the traumatic life of a nerdy girl who grew into a broken woman
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Monday Mark 40.5 & 41.0
40.5 – For Last Week’s MM: The honest conversation you’re avoiding is likely the one your relationship needs the most. Avoiding conflict doesn’t protect a relationship. It lets one person suffer in silence while the other suffers by wrongly thinking everything is fine. What honest conversation are you avoiding? What’s it costing your relationship? Have the…
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Monday Mark – 39.5 & 40.0
39.5 – For Last Week’s MM: An underrated cheat code in life: being incredibly reliable. Show up on time.Do what you say you will.Own your mistakes. It goes so much further than you think. If you asked the people closest to you, would they say you’re reliable? Where in your life might you be letting people…
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Monday Mark – 38.5 & 39.0
38.5 – For Last Week’s MM: Being busy is not being able to add anything else to your calendar.Being fulfilled is not wanting to add anything else to your calendar. Don’t confuse one for the other. Is your calendar full because you want it to be, or because you can’t say no? If you had a…
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Monday Mark – 37.5 & 38.0
37.5 – For Last Week’s MM: “The purpose of life is to be defeated by greater and greater things.” – Rainer Maria Rilke Underrated life skill: knowing when to give up. What are you still holding onto that you already know isn’t working? What happens if you give it up? Let go of one thing you’ve…
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Monday Mark – 36.5 & 37.0
36.5 – For Last Week’s MM: Every decision you make shapes who you have to live with tomorrow. Make sure you’re creating a person you like being with. You’re going to be in a relationship with yourself for your entire life. So you should probably learn how to make it a good one. Do you like…
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Oh, Have I Ever Been Here Before…
The desperation and despair I feel when I finally accept that the person I gave my heart to doesn’t feel the same – or anything close, for that matter – is palpable. When I’ve poured my entire heart out, set myself ablaze, and shed an ocean of tears… only to be met with cold indifference……
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100 Things a Man Has to Unlearn
So, I came across this post this morning and (excluding the “children” part) thought it was relatable to my current relationship. Saved a draft and now I’m just editing to make it look nicer. I have provided the link to the original post here (Derek Hart/Facebook). Naturally, keep in mind that this can apply to…
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Monday Mark – 35.5 & 36.0
35.5 – For Last Week’s MM: Trying to be happy is like trying to fall asleep. Forcing it prevents it. You don’t make it happen; you remove the impediments to it happening on its own. If you stop chasing happiness for long enough, you will find it was there all along. What do you tell yourself…
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Monday Mark – 34.5 & 35.0
34.5 – For Last Week’s MM: Scarcity dictates what’s meaningful. When you are alone, a relationship feels meaningful.When you’re in a relationship, time to yourself feels meaningful. When you are overworked, time off feels meaningful.When you have plenty of downtime, work feels meaningful. The scarcity never gets solved, it simply changes form. What feels scarce to…
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After Group Journal Prompts 2
Last Saturday I posted some journal prompts from the women’s group I attend and got the first one done, but didn’t have the bandwidth or time to get to the other 2. I will make a solid attempt to do those now. Prompt 2: Why are you angry? As I mentioned before, I have a…
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Monday Mark – 33.5 & 34.0
33.5 – For Last Week’s MM: The people who wait until they’re “ready” never are. The people who just start realize they could have been “ready” any time they wanted. At some point, preparation becomes its own form of procrastination. Just do the thing. What have you been preparing for longer than you’d like to admit?…
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After Group Journal Prompts
So, I attend a weekly women’s group call for the Recovery Program we (The Boyfriend and myself) are in. I cherish these calls, because it helps me to not feel so alone, gives me other women’s perspectives on what we are all experiencing, and I just… friggin LOVE these resilient and wonderful women, coach included.…
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