EnchiPants: a blog about the traumatic life of a nerdy girl who grew into a broken woman
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Monday Mark – 44.5 & 45.0
44.5 – For Last Week’s MM: There is no amount of information that will make you feel “ready.”There is no amount of approval that will make you feel confident.There is no amount of success that will make you feel entirely fulfilled. Life is about just doing the thing anyway. “I lived so carefully, thinking someone was…
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Monday Mark 43.5 & 44.0
43.5 – For Last Week’s MM: Everything that matters most in life will sometimes bore you. Your marriage will bore you.Your career will bore you.Your kids will bore you. But boredom isn’t a sign that you chose wrong. It’s a signal that you have chosen to make something more important than your own momentary pleasure. It’s…
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Monday Mark 42.5 & 43.0
42.5 – For Last Week’s MM: The moment you accept that you can’t control the outcome is the moment you stop being controlled by it. The people who seem most at peace aren’t the ones who got everything they wanted. They’re the ones who stopped wanting everything they couldn’t have. What outcome are you trying to…
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Monday Mark – 41.5 & 42.0
41.5 – For Last Week’s MM: Readiness is not a feeling. It’s a decision. The voice in your head that says you’re not ready is not protecting you. It’s just stopping you from finding out what you’re actually capable of. What have you been telling yourself you’re not ready for? What if you did it anyway?…
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Monday Mark 40.5 & 41.0
40.5 – For Last Week’s MM: The honest conversation you’re avoiding is likely the one your relationship needs the most. Avoiding conflict doesn’t protect a relationship. It lets one person suffer in silence while the other suffers by wrongly thinking everything is fine. What honest conversation are you avoiding? What’s it costing your relationship? Have the…
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Monday Mark – 39.5 & 40.0
39.5 – For Last Week’s MM: An underrated cheat code in life: being incredibly reliable. Show up on time.Do what you say you will.Own your mistakes. It goes so much further than you think. If you asked the people closest to you, would they say you’re reliable? Where in your life might you be letting people…
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Monday Mark – 38.5 & 39.0
38.5 – For Last Week’s MM: Being busy is not being able to add anything else to your calendar.Being fulfilled is not wanting to add anything else to your calendar. Don’t confuse one for the other. Is your calendar full because you want it to be, or because you can’t say no? If you had a…
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Monday Mark – 37.5 & 38.0
37.5 – For Last Week’s MM: “The purpose of life is to be defeated by greater and greater things.” – Rainer Maria Rilke Underrated life skill: knowing when to give up. What are you still holding onto that you already know isn’t working? What happens if you give it up? Let go of one thing you’ve…
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Monday Mark – 36.5 & 37.0
36.5 – For Last Week’s MM: Every decision you make shapes who you have to live with tomorrow. Make sure you’re creating a person you like being with. You’re going to be in a relationship with yourself for your entire life. So you should probably learn how to make it a good one. Do you like…
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Oh, Have I Ever Been Here Before…
The desperation and despair I feel when I finally accept that the person I gave my heart to doesn’t feel the same – or anything close, for that matter – is palpable. When I’ve poured my entire heart out, set myself ablaze, and shed an ocean of tears… only to be met with cold indifference……
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100 Things a Man Has to Unlearn
So, I came across this post this morning and (excluding the “children” part) thought it was relatable to my current relationship. Saved a draft and now I’m just editing to make it look nicer. I have provided the link to the original post here (Derek Hart/Facebook). Naturally, keep in mind that this can apply to…
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Monday Mark – 35.5 & 36.0
35.5 – For Last Week’s MM: Trying to be happy is like trying to fall asleep. Forcing it prevents it. You don’t make it happen; you remove the impediments to it happening on its own. If you stop chasing happiness for long enough, you will find it was there all along. What do you tell yourself…
The Journey of a Thousand Miles Begins with One Step – Lao Tzu
From the: Tao te Ching
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