EnchiPants: a blog about the traumatic life of a nerdy girl who grew into a broken woman
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Monday Mark 54.5 & 55.0
54.5 – For Last Week’s MM: You’ve survived every single thing you thought you couldn’t handle up until this point. Why would the next one be any different? What’s the hardest thing you’ve already survived? What are you convinced you can’t handle right now? That thing you’re convinced you can’t handle—do something about it this week. Let…
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Monday Mark – 53.5 & 54.0
53.5 – For Last Week’s MM: You can only tell what someone values by what they’re willing to say no to. No’s mean more than yes’s. Saying yes is easy—people say yes to things they don’t care about all the time. Saying no requires you to be willing to lose something. That’s how you know it’s…
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Monday Mark 52.5 & 53.0
52.5 – For Last Week’s MM: The version of yourself you perform for other people is always less interesting than the one you’re hiding. It just never feels that way from the inside. The parts of yourself you think are “too much” for people are usually the parts they’d actually connect with. And the parts you…
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Monday Mark – 51.5 & 52.0
51.5 – For Last Week’s MM: The smartest people you know aren’t the ones with the best answers. They’re the ones still sitting with questions everyone else gave up on years ago. When did you last sit with a question instead of rushing to answer it? What are you afraid you’d find if you kept asking?…
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Monday Mark – 50.5 & 51.0
50.5 – For Last Week’s MM: You are always responsible because you are always choosing. In every moment, you are choosing how to respond, how to react, how to see things. Even when you fail to choose, that is itself a choice. Where in your life are you pretending you don’t have a choice? What if…
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Monday Mark 49.5 & 50.0
49.5 – For Last Week’s MM: Everybody wants a transformation. Nobody wants the hundred boring, thankless days it actually takes to get it. Progress feels like nothing’s happening when you’re mid-journey. You only see how far you’ve come once you stop and look back. What would you be willing to do for a hundred boring days?…
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He Loves Me… He Loves Me Not…
I am having a difficult time coming to terms with the fact that – at 44 years old, with the handful of failed relationships I left behind because of the exact same answer to this exact same question – I’m actually Googling: “how do you know if someone truly loves you?” I mean… how the…
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Monday Mark – 48.5 & 49.0
48.5 – For Last Week’s MM: Self-doubt doesn’t go away when you succeed. In fact, the higher the stakes get, the more doubt will continue to show up. Confidence isn’t about removing all doubt. Confidence is knowing you’ll be all right if things go wrong. What stakes are making you doubt yourself right now? What would…
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Monday Mark 47.5 & 48.0
47.5 – For Last Week’s MM: A healthy relationship should periodically make you a little uncomfortable. The conversations that matter are uncomfortable. The vulnerability required for intimacy is uncomfortable. Finding compromise and forgiveness is uncomfortable. A comfortable relationship is likely an empty one. Resentment is the compound interest on conversations you were too afraid to have.…
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Random Friday
I guess I’m feeling it today, whatever “it” is that’s inspired me to blog on a random Friday 😅 I mean… I’m not even sure how many weeks I’ve barely done the “Monday Mark” posts (i.e. backdated posting), but it’s been quite a while since I blogged anything outside of those… A lot of why…
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Monday Mark 46.5 & 47.0
46.5 – For Last Week’s MM: The most underrated trait for a happy life: decisiveness. Our intuition is that it’s best to keep our options open. But as long as you try to keep every door open, you’ll never be able to walk through the one that matters. Optimizing your life for optionality creates a false…
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Monday Mark 45.5 & 46.0
45.5 – For Last Week’s MM: Happiness is having better challenges.Success is having better failures.Discipline is having better addictions. Improving your life does not remove your problems. It simply exchanges them for better problems. Do you have better problems today than in the past? Or just the same problems? Find one problem you’d be happy to…
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