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  • Monday Mark – 23.5 & 24.0

    Monday Mark – 23.5 & 24.0

    23.5 – For Last Week’s MM: “The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.” – Carl Rogers The best way to become the person you want to be is to put yourself in a situation where you have no choice but to become them. Are you trying…

  • The Back Deck Incident

    The Back Deck Incident

    In the interest of not having much motivation to blog/journal, let alone something to talk about… I’ve titled this as what my EMDR therapist and myself are calling the memory of when my brain “broke” and Anhedonia took over. It seemed fitting enough, since we started working on it yesterday. It was rough, but necessary,…

  • Monday Mark – 22.5 & 23.0

    Monday Mark – 22.5 & 23.0

    22.5 – For Last Week’s MM: Do you have trouble saying “no”? Why do you think you do? Say “no” to one thing you’d normally say “yes” to, then regret later. If you’re not sure how, download my free Boundaries, Solved Guide. This is a work in progress for me. I used to be a people pleaser, but I…

  • For What It’s Worth

    For What It’s Worth

    Yesterday started off really well for me, talking on the phone with my mom about all sorts of things. I wanted to share a couple of them with The Boyfriend, when he finally came downstairs. He prepared a bowl of cereal and I excitedly asked if we could talk. While standing at the bottom of…

  • Screen Time Before Bed

    Screen Time Before Bed

    So, The Boyfriend seems to believe that screen time during bed time right before sleeping… is just some wrong opinion I have. Yesterday, we did a worksheet for the Recovery Program and it involved identifying areas of neuroplasticity that we could work to improve. There were 3 out of 6 types of neuroplasticity listed and…

  • I Love You

    I Love You

    A Quote from Facebook: If you can say “I love you” while you are crushing her spirit, you are not loving her, you are harming her and calling it devotion. Love is not a word you use after the damage; it is the care you show before you cause it. If she feels afraid, ashamed,…

  • Monday Mark – 21.5 & 22.0

    Monday Mark – 21.5 & 22.0

    21.5 – For Last Week’s MM: “For last year’s words belong to last year’s language. And next year’s words await another voice.” – T.S. Eliot “Almost everything will start working again if you unplug it for a few minutes… including you.” – Anne Lamott What language of your life in 2025 will you leave behind? What…

  • What a Broken Woman Needs

    What a Broken Woman Needs

    In light of my last post and the event surrounding it, I’ve sat pondering what it is that I truly need. I am the Broken Woman, and have been for decades, despite how much time and effort I’ve put in to fix myself (over and over again), to pick up those repeatedly broken pieces and…

  • The Struggle Bus

    The Struggle Bus

    Sheesh. I really fell off the Journaling/Blog wagon, didn’t I? We’re already on the 4th day of the new year and I’m finally planting my ass in the chair to write. The Struggle Bus has left the station and descended into the Void of Despair. Last night was rough and I wasn’t in a good…

  • The Last Day

    The Last Day

    I honestly don’t remember what we did for New Years last year. It isn’t that we got shitfaced or anything, but things were in so much turmoil between us, it passed by without fanfare and wasn’t committed to memory. I suppose that’s more likely a good thing, given what Xmas and everything around it was…

  • HALT

    HALT

    HALT is an acronym my EMDR therapist gave me a while back during one of our sessions. It stands for: It’s used as a self-check tool to help identify basic needs that may require attention and fulfilment. For some reason, I woke up with all four of them. I made it through the cat-swapping and…

  • Monday Mark – 20.5 & 21.0

    Monday Mark – 20.5 & 21.0

    20.5 – For Last Week’s MM: The first rule of dealing with drama: don’t hang around people who are constantly creating drama. The second rule: never forget the first one. Apply the 80/20 rule. Who in your family generates most of the drama? How can you spend less time with them this week? Give yourself permission…