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Category: Relationships

  • Coffee & Conversation

    Coffee & Conversation

    Ugh. Crawling out of bed to throw on some clothes for Walkies is legitimately an Impossible Task. Having The Boyfriend come in to wake me up for it, though? It’s enough to spur me out of bed. I trudge downstairs… slowly, because my knees are being utter dicks lately. I’m surrounded by cats with varying…

  • A Fresh Start

    A Fresh Start

    We are in the process of getting signed up for the Recovery Program (I’ve mentioned it in the past) for The Boyfriend’s addiction. First, I want to say how excited I am that The Boyfriend took the step to get pre-approved to pay for the program itself. It took a relapse, which does suck overall,…

  • Infidelity & Inequity

    Infidelity & Inequity

    I am a fairly patient, considerate, and understanding woman. I’ve been through the ringer far too much for one person. I look back at my life and wonder what sort of Karmic Justice I’ve enacted with as much shit as I’ve had to endure, but the fact is… I’m a pretty good egg. I don’t…

  • Consideration

    Consideration

    Something I’ve had on my mind for a while is “consideration.” It seems like a really simple thing to carry out in relationships, but if you really think about it, how often do people actually show consideration for others? How often do you consider others in your daily life? More often than not, I see…

  • Special Needs Struggles

    Special Needs Struggles

    The Son has autism. He is now 19 years old. As part of preparing him for more “adult” responsibilities (before I knew I was moving to Colorado), I opened a joint checking account with him at my local bank in Arkansas. I taught him how to deposit cash, use a Debit Card at stores, withdraw…

  • Foundations

    Foundations

    A healthy relationship (romantic or not) requires healthy foundations. I used to believe that all that was needed for that was: Trust, Respect, and Communication. I have learned well over the years that it takes so much more than that. While these three things are tantamount, they are not the be all, end all. So…

  • Networking with Friends

    Networking with Friends

    After getting the Mac n Cheese done and last minute preparations yesterday, the birthday party started with our first couple of guests showing up at the intended time. After that, people trickled in for a couple hours. J and A (two very cool dudes) came in last, but not least. It was really great getting…

  • Beautiful Day for a Party!

    Beautiful Day for a Party!

    The Boyfriend and I went to bed much later than we wanted, because Valheim. We also got up much earlier than we wanted, because Walkies. LOL Featured pic is our back yard, which got brutally hacked and cleaned up by our friends last weekend, as a bday gift to the BF. Yay! We did get…

  • Happy Birthday!

    Happy Birthday!

    It is officially The Boyfriend’s birthday, yaaaay! I also started my period. Sorry, not sorry… such is life 😅 I’m going back to bed.

  • Connection

    Connection

    This morning after Walkies, I got in the shower. The Boyfriend had expressed joining me. At one point, he came in to the bathroom like he was about to do so, then left. As time went on and I did my thing, he didn’t come back. When I was finishing up, I called out and…

  • The “Onus” on Women

    The “Onus” on Women

    I read something so profound this morning that I just… blinked in shock and awe… First, the featured pic is an original I took 12-ish years ago when I visited Costa Rica. The flower is in Cahuita, Limón. I do not remember what it is called, it was just so gorgeous I could not pass…

  • Avoidant Personality Disorder

    Avoidant Personality Disorder

    So… along with The Boyfriend’s individual therapist’s initial suspicions, my opinion is that he has Avoidant Personality Disorder. I have suspected this for some time, mostly because I like to do research on things and learn the how and why of behaviors and whatnot. I am an Anxious Attachment Disorder type (though not diagnosed officially).…