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Special Needs Struggles
The Son has autism. He is now 19 years old. As part of preparing him for more “adult” responsibilities (before I knew I was moving to Colorado), I opened a joint checking account with him at my local bank in Arkansas. I taught him how to deposit cash, use a Debit Card at stores, withdraw…
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Foundations
A healthy relationship (romantic or not) requires healthy foundations. I used to believe that all that was needed for that was: Trust, Respect, and Communication. I have learned well over the years that it takes so much more than that. While these three things are tantamount, they are not the be all, end all. So…
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Networking with Friends
After getting the Mac n Cheese done and last minute preparations yesterday, the birthday party started with our first couple of guests showing up at the intended time. After that, people trickled in for a couple hours. J and A (two very cool dudes) came in last, but not least. It was really great getting…
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Beautiful Day for a Party!
The Boyfriend and I went to bed much later than we wanted, because Valheim. We also got up much earlier than we wanted, because Walkies. LOL Featured pic is our back yard, which got brutally hacked and cleaned up by our friends last weekend, as a bday gift to the BF. Yay! We did get…
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Happy Birthday!
It is officially The Boyfriend’s birthday, yaaaay! I also started my period. Sorry, not sorry… such is life 😅 I’m going back to bed.
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Connection
This morning after Walkies, I got in the shower. The Boyfriend had expressed joining me. At one point, he came in to the bathroom like he was about to do so, then left. As time went on and I did my thing, he didn’t come back. When I was finishing up, I called out and…
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The “Onus” on Women
I read something so profound this morning that I just… blinked in shock and awe… First, the featured pic is an original I took 12-ish years ago when I visited Costa Rica. The flower is in Cahuita, Limón. I do not remember what it is called, it was just so gorgeous I could not pass…
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Avoidant Personality Disorder
So… along with The Boyfriend’s individual therapist’s initial suspicions, my opinion is that he has Avoidant Personality Disorder. I have suspected this for some time, mostly because I like to do research on things and learn the how and why of behaviors and whatnot. I am an Anxious Attachment Disorder type (though not diagnosed officially).…
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Bittersweet Purgatory
Well, at least the featured AI pic is cool. So Sayeth the Google: Purgatory is a Roman Catholic doctrine describing a post-death process of purification for souls that are not yet perfect enough to enter heaven. Souls in purgatory are in God’s friendship but must be cleansed of attachment to sin before they can reach God’s presence. This…
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Walkies?!
Soooo… I went with The Boyfriend on his “run” this morning (it was so early!). We walked the block-ish to the neighborhood park (is smol) and I rested on the first bench while he started his regimen. I did eventually get up and walk the track to the next bench, waiting for him to finish.…
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White Knight Syndrome
So Sayeth the Google: White Knight Syndrome describes the tendency for some individuals to be drawn to, and excessively focus on helping, those perceived as vulnerable or damaged, often to the detriment of their own well-being. It’s characterized by a compulsive need to rescue or fix others, particularly in romantic relationships. This pattern can be a form of codependency, where…
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The Past Meets the Present
Fair warning, this one is going to be REALLY long. I was perusing my old “journal” notes in my phone from way back when I was with The Dementor… starting around 2020. It’s fucking ironic that the similarities between what I felt and wrote about back then are almost an exact mirror of the shit…
Who IS EnchiPants?! 