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  • Special Needs Struggles

    Special Needs Struggles

    The Son has autism. He is now 19 years old. As part of preparing him for more “adult” responsibilities (before I knew I was moving to Colorado), I opened a joint checking account with him at my local bank in Arkansas. I taught him how to deposit cash, use a Debit Card at stores, withdraw…

  • 105º of EnchiPants

    105º of EnchiPants

    Did you know there’s a game about the 6º of Kevin Bacon (or “Bacon’s Law”)? I linked the Wiki for it there, but briefly (and quote-y 😜): The game’s name is a reference to “six degrees of separation“, a concept that posits that any two people on Earth are six or fewer acquaintance links apart.…

  • Sundays & Stress

    Sundays & Stress

    I feel like I’m living an entirely different life/reality than I was a year ago. In fact, the war between “Omg, it’s been a year already?!” and “It feels like it’s been much longer than just a year!” hits me simultaneously in moments of reflection like I’m having today. It’s so hard to believe that…

  • The First Step

    The First Step

    The Journey of a Thousand Miles Begins with One Step – Lao Tzu The Brother has taken his first step in healing and made the move to Colorado – and away from The Plague. Unfortunately, his wife stayed in Arkansas, having moved out a week prior and gotten her own place. I don’t blame her,…

  • Anger Gets a Bad Rap

    Anger Gets a Bad Rap

    Heh. I’m dovetailing from the end of yesterday’s entry. But seriously, anger really does get a monumentally “bad rap”: So Sayeth Google AI: A “bad rap” means an undeserved or unjust reputation, often for something negative. It implies that the person or thing is unfairly criticized or perceived negatively, sometimes without proper justification.  Here’s a more detailed…

  • Sacrifices… bleh

    Sacrifices… bleh

    Lordt… aside from the traumas, sacrifices are another ginormous list of things I’ve had too much of in my life 😅 I lost parts of myself along the way to The Plague, Gravity, The Dementor, and various other “adults” that came and went. So, I suppose the biggest sacrifice I made was my sense of…

  • Happy Mother’s Day!

    Happy Mother’s Day!

    It’s another first without my kiddo… Granted… he IS 19 now, but… it’s different for us. He was diagnosed with autism at 2.5 years old. Back then, he was on the cusp between severe and moderate autism. Non-verbal, frequent meltdowns, stimming… I won’t mince words, it was fucking hard those first few years. I don’t…

  • It’s Muh Birfday :P

    It’s Muh Birfday :P

    Fourty. Three. Yeah. I know… it can seem SUPER old to the behbeh’s out there, who are probably close to the same age as my SON (19). And to the Boomers and Beyond, I guess I’m some sort of Spring Chicken?! But for me… I feel like I’m about 80 years old. I’ve experienced too…

  • A Mother’s Confession

    A Mother’s Confession

    In my therapeutic journey, I’ve spent a lot of time and focus on The Plague and everything shitty that’s come from him. His toxic abuse my entire life has overshadowed almost everything else, despite there being plenty of other traumatic things I’ve had to endure… things that will eventually require my attention and some healthy…

  • The Plague

    The Plague

    This one is going to be ROUGH, folks. Fair warning, most of it will be a recounting of the abuse I endured as a child. “The Plague” is the (very apt) nickname I’ve given to my biological “father” – because he doesn’t deserve to be called a father/dad, or considered anything but a toxic Monster…

  • We ALL Need Therapy

    We ALL Need Therapy

    I feel like the entire world, and the varying pockets (countries, states, cities, communities, families, ourselves) within it, is in a state of chaos and uncertainty. And I don’t know about you, but… it’s feckin exhausting and I really need a nap.