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Tag: Relationships

  • Monday Mark – 26.5 & 27.0

    Monday Mark – 26.5 & 27.0

    26.5 – For Last Week’s MM: A great spouse makes everything else in your life easier.A bad spouse makes everything else in your life harder. Your romantic relationship is your highest leverage choice in life. Every healthy relationship starts with two people who have healthy relationships with themselves. Any toxic relationship is the result of at…

  • Monday Mark – 25.5 & 26.0

    Monday Mark – 25.5 & 26.0

    25.5 – For Last Week’s MM: You can have anything you want in life. You just can’t have everything you want. The game of life is trade-offs. Being willing to disappoint people is the only way to be truly free. Who are you afraid of disappointing if you really go for what you want? Choose one trade-off you want, and…

  • Monday Mark – 24.5 & 25.0

    Monday Mark – 24.5 & 25.0

    24.5 – For Last Week’s MM: Actions are your values made real. You can talk and talk, but at the end of the day, your actions never lie. Is there something you tell yourself you value but your actions don’t follow?Is there something you tell others you value but your actions don’t follow? Pick one thing…

  • Monday Mark – 23.5 & 24.0

    Monday Mark – 23.5 & 24.0

    23.5 – For Last Week’s MM: “The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.” – Carl Rogers The best way to become the person you want to be is to put yourself in a situation where you have no choice but to become them. Are you trying…

  • The Back Deck Incident

    The Back Deck Incident

    In the interest of not having much motivation to blog/journal, let alone something to talk about… I’ve titled this as what my EMDR therapist and myself are calling the memory of when my brain “broke” and Anhedonia took over. It seemed fitting enough, since we started working on it yesterday. It was rough, but necessary,…

  • Monday Mark – 22.5 & 23.0

    Monday Mark – 22.5 & 23.0

    22.5 – For Last Week’s MM: Do you have trouble saying “no”? Why do you think you do? Say “no” to one thing you’d normally say “yes” to, then regret later. If you’re not sure how, download my free Boundaries, Solved Guide. This is a work in progress for me. I used to be a people pleaser, but I…

  • The Struggle Bus

    The Struggle Bus

    Sheesh. I really fell off the Journaling/Blog wagon, didn’t I? We’re already on the 4th day of the new year and I’m finally planting my ass in the chair to write. The Struggle Bus has left the station and descended into the Void of Despair. Last night was rough and I wasn’t in a good…

  • Xmas Season… ugh

    Xmas Season… ugh

    A year ago, I was in the throes of questioning my ability to make good choices when it came to men (a repeating pattern, unfortunately), wallowing in mountains of self-pity, severely beating myself up for being utterly stupid – yet again – for falling for sweet words and promises that turned out to be lies,…

  • Stranger Things

    Stranger Things

    I am a LITTLE obsessed with Stranger Things. I have the main theme as an alarm tone. One of my favorite things to wear is an overly large Stranger Things long-sleeve shirt (it has pockets). Since the first half of the newest (and last?!) season dropped over the holiday, I asked The Boyfriend to do…

  • Safety First

    Safety First

    Whew. This is a deep one, yeah? I sat and pondered this question for a few, because I feel like my knee-jerk answer (to be seen as “kind”) was merely surface level and not nearly accurate enough. While I do wish to be seen as someone that is kind, it doesn’t do justice to all…

  • Monday Mark – 13.5 & 14.0

    Monday Mark – 13.5 & 14.0

    13.5 – For Last Week’s MM: Many of us misinterpret our need for strong friendships as a need for a romantic relationship. You can be happy without a partner. You cannot be happy without friends. Do you prioritize romance over friendships? How can you give more attention to your friends? Do something nice with or for…

  • The Journey Begins

    The Journey Begins

    I had a bit of an emotional rollercoaster yesterday, starting quite early. On Monday, I casually mentioned that we were in the process of signing up for the Recovery Program (RP for short) for The Boyfriend’s addiction. As part of my morning routine, I check our accounts and adjust the budget accordingly (ah yes, this…