I have a few things I participate in to “maintain” what health and well-being can be had, given my state of existence (it isn’t great). Due to trauma (both my lifetime of it and recent events), I am now in 4 different trauma-informed therapies, in addition to regular therapy and couple’s therapy. Weekly, I attend an online women’s support group for “betrayal trauma” specific to The Boyfriend’s addiction, trauma-informed Yoga therapy, IFS/EMDR therapy, and trauma-informed group art therapy.
At home, I use video games (like Valheim) and anime to cope with the overwhelming pain and stress, but some days are better than others and I play or watch for entertainment purposes. Once in a while, when I get a wild hair up my butt, I’ll break out the painting supplies and go to town on that.
Next… I have to divulge that I REEEEALLY hate being on the phone. I’ve gotten better at it, but I still get spikes of anxiety when someone calls me out of the blue. I prefer to be given the option of a call via text first. Part of that is due to not being able to do anything else but sit on the phone. My brain-power has declined to the point where I cannot multitask anymore. It takes quite a bit of energy for me to concentrate on a conversation over the phone.
That being said, my bestie – Granny Sidhé – gets a free pass because she doesn’t abuse it. We’ve gotten to a good place where we speak every week on Mondays, pretty early on (bc coffee). I have Monday Coffee & Call with Granny Sidhé saved in my phone calendar, otherwise I’ll forget (I mean… I forgot about Granny’s daughter’s wedding and completely missed that, FFS). But… this is one of the most precious things that I enjoy weekly and is great for my mental health – even when I’m not feeling it.
Other than that… I guess taking naps, snuggling cats, and getting my nails done are all that’s left. Spending quality time with The Boyfriend also helps.
I really miss The Son, though. *sad panda*
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