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Monday Mark – 60.5 & 61.0
60.5 – For Last Week’s MM: The hardest part about being surrounded by people who hold you back isn’t what they say to you… it’s the low expectations they have for you. “Not everyone who helps you is your friend. Not everyone who hurts you is your enemy.” – Mike Tyson What low expectations are potentially…
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Monday Mark – 59.5 & 60.0
59.5 – For Last Week’s MM: A tiny piece of advice that changed my life: Stop assuming people know how you feel, tell them instead. Tell them when you’re proud. Tell them when you missed them. Tell them when you’re angry or stressed. When in doubt, just tell them. If being honest about your feelings causes…
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Monday Mark – 50.5 & 51.0
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100 Things a Man Has to Unlearn
So, I came across this post this morning and (excluding the “children” part) thought it was relatable to my current relationship. Saved a draft and now I’m just editing to make it look nicer. I have provided the link to the original post here (Derek Hart/Facebook). Naturally, keep in mind that this can apply to…
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Monday Mark – 29.5 & 30.0
29.5 – For Last Week’s MM: Goals are the actions you think about but don’t do.Habits are the actions you do but don’t think about. Better goals require a lot of effort and change little.Better habits will change everything. What do you already do that moves you towards your goals? What moves you further from them?…
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Forgetful
Does childhood trauma cause forgetfulness? Yes, childhood trauma can cause memory loss, including fragmented memories, gaps in time, and a general difficulty recalling past events. This often happens due to the brain’s use of dissociation as a defense mechanism to cope with overwhelming stress, which can disconnect a person from their experiences, making it hard to form and retain memories. …
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Monday Mark – 8.5 & 9.0
8.5 – For Last Week’s MM: When have you caught yourself living for the emotional scraps of strangers’ opinions? What did it cost you? What would living for yourself look like instead? I used to be really bad about wanting approval from other people. I suppose that’s a byproduct of the trauma that was my entire…
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Monday Mark – 3.5 & 4.0
3.5 – For Last Week’s MM: Ah, yes. The subject of “pain.” One I know all too well, unfortunately. Mark IS right: pain is inevitable; suffering is optional. In other words, pain will happen, it’s a matter of course for literally just existing. But suffering? Well… as hard as it is to admit and hear, it…
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Avoidant Personality Disorder
So… along with The Boyfriend’s individual therapist’s initial suspicions, my opinion is that he has Avoidant Personality Disorder. I have suspected this for some time, mostly because I like to do research on things and learn the how and why of behaviors and whatnot. I am an Anxious Attachment Disorder type (though not diagnosed officially).…
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Monday Mark – 2.5 & 3.0
2.5 – For Last Week’s MM: I actually ponder “trust” and all that entails quite frequently. You see, The Boyfriend broke my trust as early on as last October, though I didn’t know the full extent of it – especially the “wtf is going on” part – until this past February. The consequences of realizing my…
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EMDR
So Sayeth the Google: EMDR, or Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing, is a psychotherapy treatment that helps people heal from trauma and other distressing life experiences. It’s based on the idea that the mind can naturally heal from psychological trauma in a way similar to how the body heals from physical wounds. EMDR therapy involves eight phases, including…
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Granny Sidhé & Such
I have a few things I participate in to “maintain” what health and well-being can be had, given my state of existence (it isn’t great). Due to trauma (both my lifetime of it and recent events), I am now in 4 different trauma-informed therapies, in addition to regular therapy and couple’s therapy. Weekly, I attend…
