17.5 – For Last Week’s MM:
The one productivity system that controls all others: your emotions.
When you are in love with what you’re doing, everything gets easier.
When you hate what you’re doing, no productivity hack will save you.What would it look like if you didn’t hate that thing you’ve been forcing yourself to do? Would that make things easier?
Before you start an important task this week, take ten seconds to note how you feel. Let me know what you find, and if it changed how you worked.
I don’t have very many truly “important” tasks in my life, currently. Monday calls with Granny Sídhe (enjoy those), Recovery Program work (don’t hate it, but doing it alone sucks), and this blog (some days are harder than others).
However, I can reflect on my past and note that I used to have a lot of important tasks and I hated most of them for one reason or another. They became “impossible tasks” – normally simple and easily completed tasks that – because of chronic pain or mental health – became impossible to do. No amount of reframing my mind would work on that stuff. I do understand the concept and how it would work in some cases.
20.0 – The One Gift You Don’t Need
Two festive rules for you to think about
The first rule of dealing with drama: don’t hang around people who are constantly creating drama.
The second rule: never forget the first one.
Reflect: Then consider sharing this thought with others.
Two things for you to ask yourself
Apply the 80/20 rule. Who in your family generates most of the drama? How can you spend less time with them this week?
Recommended: Use these as journaling prompts for the week.
One thing for you to try this week
Give yourself permission to skip one thing that drains you this holiday. A conversation. A meal. An expectation you never asked for. Let me know how it goes.
Remember: Small changes lead to lasting breakthroughs.
As for how I’m doing… meh. Told The Boyfriend about how his reaction to me the previous night made me feel. He apologized, but… I’m really wondering if he means it, or if he’s just saying it to prevent further issues. Yes, I want to hear the words. But I also want to feel like he means it, because he is empathizing with me… and that’s a very difficult thing for me to believe when empathy is the biggest thing this addiction robbed from him. I mean… the only time he’s ever cried around me has been over his best friend that passed away and the one time when he thought he would lose his female “friend” (they rarely ever talk) – the one he crossed an emotional boundary with early on in our relationship and I discovered later on – when I asked him to repair the damage he caused by talking to her about how inappropriate their exchange was. Not once has he seen how badly he’s hurt me and cried. More often than not, he just stares elsewhere, avoiding looking at me.
But… bleh. I’m tired of talking about all that. I’m going to take a “vacation” from blogging this week. If I feel like writing and have anything worth writing about, I will. Otherwise, I’ll see you on the other side of Xmas. Stay safe and relaxed.
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