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  • Monday Mark 31.5 & 32.0

    Monday Mark 31.5 & 32.0

    31.5 – For Last Week’s MM: Everyone has something to teach you, even if neither of you realizes it. The catch is: it’s not their job to show you, it’s your job to figure out what you can learn. “Attention is the rarest and purest form of generosity.” – Simone Weil Who in your life might…

  • When Doves Cry

    When Doves Cry

    A “Rumination” on Empathy (Sorry, it’s a long one…) Cognitive vs. Emotional Cognitive Empathy, or “perspective-taking,” is the intellectual ability to identify and understand another person’s emotions, thoughts, and perspective without necessarily feeling them. It is often described as “thinking with” someone, acting as a rational, logical understanding of their situation. This skill is crucial for…

  • Monday Mark – 27.5 & 28.0

    Monday Mark – 27.5 & 28.0

    27.5 – For Last Week’s MM: Accept this: You don’t have to prove anything to anybody, ever. Including yourself. The moment you stop asking for permission is when you realize it was never required. What have you been trying to prove lately? Whose permission do you seek? Pick one small decision you’ve been waiting for permission…

  • Monday Mark – 26.5 & 27.0

    Monday Mark – 26.5 & 27.0

    26.5 – For Last Week’s MM: A great spouse makes everything else in your life easier.A bad spouse makes everything else in your life harder. Your romantic relationship is your highest leverage choice in life. Every healthy relationship starts with two people who have healthy relationships with themselves. Any toxic relationship is the result of at…

  • Monday Mark – 25.5 & 26.0

    Monday Mark – 25.5 & 26.0

    25.5 – For Last Week’s MM: You can have anything you want in life. You just can’t have everything you want. The game of life is trade-offs. Being willing to disappoint people is the only way to be truly free. Who are you afraid of disappointing if you really go for what you want? Choose one trade-off you want, and…

  • Untitled post 3103

    It’s ironic and sad that I can remember when I used to have an innocent and fantastical perspective about life, despite how very long ago that was for me. It has systematically been eroded over the course of my 43 years. The very first “scary” incident I remember happening was when my brother fell over…

  • Monday Mark – 24.5 & 25.0

    Monday Mark – 24.5 & 25.0

    24.5 – For Last Week’s MM: Actions are your values made real. You can talk and talk, but at the end of the day, your actions never lie. Is there something you tell yourself you value but your actions don’t follow?Is there something you tell others you value but your actions don’t follow? Pick one thing…

  • Monday Mark – 23.5 & 24.0

    Monday Mark – 23.5 & 24.0

    23.5 – For Last Week’s MM: “The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.” – Carl Rogers The best way to become the person you want to be is to put yourself in a situation where you have no choice but to become them. Are you trying…

  • The Back Deck Incident

    The Back Deck Incident

    In the interest of not having much motivation to blog/journal, let alone something to talk about… I’ve titled this as what my EMDR therapist and myself are calling the memory of when my brain “broke” and Anhedonia took over. It seemed fitting enough, since we started working on it yesterday. It was rough, but necessary,…

  • Monday Mark – 22.5 & 23.0

    Monday Mark – 22.5 & 23.0

    22.5 – For Last Week’s MM: Do you have trouble saying “no”? Why do you think you do? Say “no” to one thing you’d normally say “yes” to, then regret later. If you’re not sure how, download my free Boundaries, Solved Guide. This is a work in progress for me. I used to be a people pleaser, but I…

  • For What It’s Worth

    For What It’s Worth

    Yesterday started off really well for me, talking on the phone with my mom about all sorts of things. I wanted to share a couple of them with The Boyfriend, when he finally came downstairs. He prepared a bowl of cereal and I excitedly asked if we could talk. While standing at the bottom of…

  • Monday Mark – 21.5 & 22.0

    Monday Mark – 21.5 & 22.0

    21.5 – For Last Week’s MM: “For last year’s words belong to last year’s language. And next year’s words await another voice.” – T.S. Eliot “Almost everything will start working again if you unplug it for a few minutes… including you.” – Anne Lamott What language of your life in 2025 will you leave behind? What…