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An Unexpected Lifeline
I previously wrote two posts: ADHD Research Phase 1 and Phase 2 – detailing my (once again) renewed research energy in trying to figure out what the hell is wrong with me. Based on previous research and updated information from viable resources on the internet, I curated these posts specifically to remember exactly what I…
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Foundations
A healthy relationship (romantic or not) requires healthy foundations. I used to believe that all that was needed for that was: Trust, Respect, and Communication. I have learned well over the years that it takes so much more than that. While these three things are tantamount, they are not the be all, end all. So…
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Monday Mark – 6.5 & 7.0
6.5 – For Last Week’s MM: The best investments are the things no one can take away from you: knowledge, experience, mindset, attitude. The weakest investments are the things that you can lose at any time: status, emotions, material things. Have you been investing in the right things? Why or why not? Reflecting on this……
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Monday Mark – 5.5 & 6.0
5.5 – For Last Week’s MM: “The happiest people are not the ones with the most options, but the ones who are most satisfied with their choices.” It’s interesting that satisfaction can beget happiness. I remember what that was like. Currently, the best I can get with that is “contentment.” I suppose that’s more positive than…
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Thank you, Brain!
Last night, I stayed up far too late playing Valheim and had difficulties falling asleep, thinking about what to write for my blog this morning. Then, for reasons beyond my comprehension, I fell asleep thinking that I didn’t need to worry about it (though I DO have a fantastic topic) because it would be Monday…
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Me Too
DISCLAIMER: Please be advised that I am not going to “soften” words and use things like “grape” or “SA.” This post includes talks of psychological manipulation/coercion, rape, sexual trauma, etc. I don’t have any designs to “bring back” the movement that hit with #metoo nor do I have the knowledge about whether it’s even still…
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Monday Mark – 4.5 & 5.0
4.5 – For Last Week’s MM: “How you talk to yourself defines your Self. Be careful what you say.” Boy… this one was/is a toughie. I find myself talking negatively to myself quite often, so it was really difficult to attempt to reframe that – especially in the moment. I also didn’t encounter very many situations…
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Connection
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The Distance
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Monday Mark – 3.5 & 4.0
3.5 – For Last Week’s MM: Ah, yes. The subject of “pain.” One I know all too well, unfortunately. Mark IS right: pain is inevitable; suffering is optional. In other words, pain will happen, it’s a matter of course for literally just existing. But suffering? Well… as hard as it is to admit and hear, it…
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“Should”
So Sayeth the Google AI Mode (tried a new version): The word “should” is not inherently “bad” in the sense of being a swear word, but it is often viewed as harmful or counterproductive in psychology, communication, and personal development. The word can create a cycle of shame, guilt, and unrealistic expectations for oneself and others. …
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Avoidant Personality Disorder
So… along with The Boyfriend’s individual therapist’s initial suspicions, my opinion is that he has Avoidant Personality Disorder. I have suspected this for some time, mostly because I like to do research on things and learn the how and why of behaviors and whatnot. I am an Anxious Attachment Disorder type (though not diagnosed officially).…
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