63.5 – For Last Week’s MM:
Do things that would make your eight-year-old self happy and your eighty-year-old self proud.
Change requires letting a former version of yourself die.
Therefore, maturity is a series of small funerals for the people you used to be.
What could you do today that would make your eight-year-old self happy?
What could you do today that would make your eighty-year-old self proud?Go do those two things. Today. Reply and let me know how that feels.
I completely agree that “maturity is a series of small funerals for the people you used to be.” However, because I have discovered this through EMDR, I wouldn’t really say it’s a funeral as such. It’s more that I am re-parenting and eliminating that “stuck” version of myself (whatever age that may be), while bringing the healthier version forward. IFS (Internal Family Systems) is pretty great, even if it feels awkward, at first. *shrug*
If I were to choose something that would make 8-year-old me happy today, it would most likely be a cozy nap lol. I AM going to play Valheim (shocker), but I doubt 8-year-old me would have been able to do that.
Ugh. Side Quest here: I tell myself that I don’t want to live past 69 (shh, it’s funneh). Given how old I feel currently – I have been alive for 44 years, but my health makes me feel 80 already – I’m not sure what I can do today that would make me proud… be it now or another 3 decades and then some into the future. It’s really damned hard to find things to be proud of when one exists with chronic and debilitating mental, emotional, and physical limitations and difficulties. Legit, some days I have to remind myself that I survived the day. Sometimes that’s all I can be “proud” of…
64.0 – You’re Not as Different as You Think
Two things for you to think about
The trick isn’t to stop comparing yourself. It’s impossible.
The trick is to compare yourself for better reasons and to better people.
Inspiration is a form of social comparison.
A role model is a form of social comparison.
Being coached involves a form of social comparison.
The problem isn’t social comparison. It’s how you’ve chosen to compare.
Reflect: Then consider sharing this thought with others.
Two things for you to ask yourself
How are you comparing yourself to others? What’s a better way you could compare yourself?
Recommended: Use these as journaling prompts for the week.
One thing for you to try this week
Pick a comparison this week that inspires you or motivates you to be better. Reply and tell me about it.
Remember: Small changes lead to lasting breakthroughs.
As for how I’m doing… The Boyfriend was off all last week and we played Valheim for the majority of that time. I enjoyed it quite a lot, to be honest. I know he probably feels like it was a waste (upon hindsight/reflection), even though he also had a good time. A whole week to accomplish so many things and we spent most of that time gaming? 😛 I mean… our couple’s therapist DID say that sometimes we just need that down time, and I agree.
Today, I am not feeling much like doing anything. I woke up with a 1/10 energy (i.e. 2 spoons to spend). Since The Boyfriend now works from home on Sundays, it has taken my “no people’ing day” completely out of the weekly mix. The only other option I have to replace that is every other Wednesday… so it will be a bit of a difficult adjustment. *shrug* Not much to be done about it, though.
