EnchiPants: a blog about the traumatic life of a nerdy girl who grew into a broken woman
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For What It’s Worth
Yesterday started off really well for me, talking on the phone with my mom about all sorts of things. I wanted to share a couple of them with The Boyfriend, when he finally came downstairs. He prepared a bowl of cereal and I excitedly asked if we could talk. While standing at the bottom of…
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Screen Time Before Bed
So, The Boyfriend seems to believe that screen time during bed time right before sleeping… is just some wrong opinion I have. Yesterday, we did a worksheet for the Recovery Program and it involved identifying areas of neuroplasticity that we could work to improve. There were 3 out of 6 types of neuroplasticity listed and…
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I Love You
A Quote from Facebook: If you can say “I love you” while you are crushing her spirit, you are not loving her, you are harming her and calling it devotion. Love is not a word you use after the damage; it is the care you show before you cause it. If she feels afraid, ashamed,…
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Monday Mark – 21.5 & 22.0
21.5 – For Last Week’s MM: “For last year’s words belong to last year’s language. And next year’s words await another voice.” – T.S. Eliot “Almost everything will start working again if you unplug it for a few minutes… including you.” – Anne Lamott What language of your life in 2025 will you leave behind? What…
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What a Broken Woman Needs
In light of my last post and the event surrounding it, I’ve sat pondering what it is that I truly need. I am the Broken Woman, and have been for decades, despite how much time and effort I’ve put in to fix myself (over and over again), to pick up those repeatedly broken pieces and…
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The Struggle Bus
Sheesh. I really fell off the Journaling/Blog wagon, didn’t I? We’re already on the 4th day of the new year and I’m finally planting my ass in the chair to write. The Struggle Bus has left the station and descended into the Void of Despair. Last night was rough and I wasn’t in a good…
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The Last Day
I honestly don’t remember what we did for New Years last year. It isn’t that we got shitfaced or anything, but things were in so much turmoil between us, it passed by without fanfare and wasn’t committed to memory. I suppose that’s more likely a good thing, given what Xmas and everything around it was…
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HALT
HALT is an acronym my EMDR therapist gave me a while back during one of our sessions. It stands for: It’s used as a self-check tool to help identify basic needs that may require attention and fulfilment. For some reason, I woke up with all four of them. I made it through the cat-swapping and…
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Monday Mark – 20.5 & 21.0
20.5 – For Last Week’s MM: The first rule of dealing with drama: don’t hang around people who are constantly creating drama. The second rule: never forget the first one. Apply the 80/20 rule. Who in your family generates most of the drama? How can you spend less time with them this week? Give yourself permission…
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Let the Past Be a Lesson – Not a Limitation
I definitely spend more of my time thinking about the past. Thinking about the future is difficult for me, because it doesn’t seem very hopeful, given everything currently happening in my life and how I exist. The silver lining? I learn from the past. Sometimes it comes easy and growth happens. Sometimes, I have to…
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Monday Mark – 19.5 & 20.0
19.5 – For Last Week’s MM: The one productivity system that controls all others: your emotions. When you are in love with what you’re doing, everything gets easier.When you hate what you’re doing, no productivity hack will save you. What would it look like if you didn’t hate that thing you’ve been forcing yourself to do?…
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What am I [to you]?
Last night, I asked if you were going to pause the show we were watching (as it was after 9p and you had to work in the morning), except my brain shorted out at, “Are you gonna…” and the words I needed got blown away like a plastic bag in high winds. By the time…
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