13.5 – For Last Week’s MM:

Many of us misinterpret our need for strong friendships as a need for a romantic relationship.

You can be happy without a partner. You cannot be happy without friends.

Do you prioritize romance over friendships? How can you give more attention to your friends?

Do something nice with or for a friend this week. Let me know how it goes.

This one is really tough for me, because I moved to Colorado over a year ago and left my best friend (Granny Sídhe) and other friends behind. Hell, I even lost one in the process (Darryl) – but good riddance to that one anyway.

The few friends I’ve made here are ones I’ve met through The Boyfriend. So, I would say that I DO prioritize my romantic relationship over friendships, but that is strictly due to the circumstances. I have made a habit of talking on the phone with Granny Sídhe every Monday. Outside of that, most of my friends are online. We try to gather for gaming, but that’s few and far between. One thing that’s started up again, due to The Boyfriend being the “glue” that holds people together now (despite his reluctance to admit it), is monthly gatherings. I have heard from at least 2 people in these friendship circles that this is because of my being in his life now. He is coming back out of his shell. I love this.

The “something nice with/for a friend” happened Saturday. We drove to Pueblo to visit and play board games. It ended up only being 4 of us and ONE board game (Star Trek?!) that lasted the entire time there (noon to 5p), but it was a lot of fun and good times.

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14.0 – Everything You Believe Will One Day Fail

One thing for you to think about

Everything you believe will one day fail you. Let it. Because that’s how you grow.

Reflect: Then consider sharing this thought with others.

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Two things for you to ask yourself

When’s the last time you said, “I changed my mind”? Is there a “truth” you hold onto that might actually be holding you back?

Recommended: Use these as journaling prompts for the week.

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One thing for you to try this week

Pick one belief you’ve never questioned and ask: “What if I’m wrong?” Let me know what you find.

Remember: Small changes lead to lasting breakthroughs.

https://markmanson.net/

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As for how I’m doing… better than yesterday? We had a shorter and more calm check-in last night, then some reluctance on his end to watch the next video for the Recovery Program, but all-in-all that ended up being just the thing we needed. We discussed it some afterwards, and avoided conflict. I mentioned that I didn’t want to “mother” him and keep reminding him to do the work, he agreed that he didn’t want that either. Thing is… we paid a lot of money to participate in this program and it doesn’t seem like he’s even started on his end of things. He said he didn’t believe that I’d be able to resist reminding him… so I raised an eyebrow and said, “Challenge Accepted.” Heh. It’s in his court now. I did also casually tell him that if he doesn’t do the work, it will show that he doesn’t truly care. So… there’s that. And now, I have to resist the urge to “help” him remember to do what he said he would, to do the work necessary to overcome this addiction and grow alongside and together with me.

I suppose we shall see how that goes.