63.5 – For Last Week’s MM:
The trick isn’t to stop comparing yourself. It’s impossible.
The trick is to compare yourself for better reasons and to better people.
Inspiration is a form of social comparison.
A role model is a form of social comparison.
Being coached involves a form of social comparison.The problem isn’t social comparison. It’s how you’ve chosen to compare.
How are you comparing yourself to others? What’s a better way you could compare yourself?
Pick a comparison this week that inspires you or motivates you to be better. Reply and tell me about it.
Hmm. I would say that I have not given a lot of thought to how I compare myself to others, despite this being – not surprisingly – a thing I do regularly. I mean… ok, the majority of the comparison is against who I used to be, the things I used to be able to do, and all the shite I can’t do any more. That takes up a LOT of space in my head and heart, no lie. But comparing myself to others… still a thing. I feel grossly inadequate in a lot of physical ways because of all this *gesturing to my entire body* bullshite. Literally impossible not to do (as Mark says above). However… I strive to be a better human through the examples of other shining stars in my life, from the past (like Ursa) and present (hi, Ashana :P).
And then there’s the BIG one… my father – The Plague. He continues to be on that terrible pedestal with which I hold high regard as THE example of who I do NOT want to be. I doubt that this will ever go away, and I’m not going to pander to anyone and say that I need to let it go. *shrug* Why should I? It really is a great example of a shite human and wanting to be nothing like him is an endeavor decades in the making. I still don’t want to be anything like him and continue to work on myself and break through any traits that linger (like procrastinating… ugh).
So yeah… I choose Ashana for my inspiration/motivation to be a better human. I don’t know a LOT about what she’s been through, but enough to know she – too – has been through the ringer and come out the other side a better and fantastic human. One that helps OTHER humans be better, too. We – the traumatized and healing – are truly the best fit for branching out into the world and helping others overcome things. Some day, I want to be able to do that, too. I did for a short while, but… *gesturing to everything again* Shite happens 😛
65.0 – Your Next Breakthrough
One thing for you to think about
Being ready is a myth. You will never be fully ready. The idea that some people are magically prepared for life’s biggest moments is something we assume is true of everyone else without realizing everyone is like us.
The truth is: no one knows what they’re doing. Some of us have just learned to do things anyway.
Reflect: Then consider sharing this thought with others.
One thing for you to ask yourself
What could you “just do anyway” that you’re not?
Recommended: Use these as journaling prompts for the week.
One thing for you to try this week
Go just do something even though you’re not ready. Then reply and let me know what you learned.
Remember: Small changes lead to lasting breakthroughs.
As for how I’m doing… *biggest UGH in the history of UGHS*
Yep. This past week has been UTTER SHITE and I am still not done feeling all the cortisol, anxiety, nervous system hyperarousal and dysregulation… and today is “imma b*tch a lot” day. My Sunday “no people’ing” day has been stripped from my repertoire, whatever the hell this emotional b.s. is that hit me for a solid week can be thrown in the bin, and ANGRY HAIRBRUSH at The Boyfriend and my mom, cuz they just get to receive the brunt of it since they’re at the forefront of my existence currently.
I will be sharing a completely separate post after this, because Facebook has a knack for giving me the perfect post from a random person that hits everything in the feels and UGH… I want it to be it’s own thing, too much to include here. So yeah. That is all.
